Dear Dad Who Isn’t Sure Where To Look During Labor
Experience ‘labor day’ jitters? This Father’s Day, hear from a dad who’s been there.
Dear Dad Who Isn’t Sure Where to Look During Labor,
Three words: I get it. I remember every moment leading up to the birth of my daughter. I was so freakin’ nervous. Honestly, my biggest thing was where to stand. As in, do I watch my baby come out of my wife’s vagina? Frankly, there were pros and cons.
Pro: You only get to see your first-born come into the world once. Con: I love my wife’s vagina, and I wasn’t sure I wanted to see it in pain.
She was down with whatever I wanted to do. But then, when push came to shove, I didn’t even get to make the call. She was pushing and sweating and the baby’s coming and a nurse yells, “Grab her leg!” And the next thing I know, I’m bracing myself against my wife’s right thigh, with a front row seat to the miracle of life.
I wish I could show you what I looked like: grinning, crying, shaking, hospital mask filled with snot, watching something I can never, ever un-see. And would never, ever want to.
That was four years ago now. And all I can say to you, man, is this: It’s okay to look. It’s also okay not to. The most important thing is that you be there… to hold your wife’s leg.